This is ME! (A single pringle, not Keala Settle)

Hello there, and welcome to my blog, The Single Pringle.

This is a blog for anyone who wishes to peruse it. I really want to explore the experience of people dating in the modern world.

Not only this, but I really just want people to be happy. I want them to realise their own strength and worth, and that it is better to be single than it is to be in an unsatisfying relationship. I want people to realise that you are strong enough to be on your own, and it is never too late to leave a relationship if you have done everything you can, and you’re still unhappy.

Here’s a bit of my story.

Get some popcorn, sit back and relax.

Or you know, just do whatever you were doing before, don’t let me tell you how to live your life. Realistically this post isn’t that long so you may not even need a snack.

I’ve been a serial monogamist since I was young. I was always in a relationship, and if I was on the way out of one, I normally had an idea of who I would go after next. It sounds terrible, I know, but when I was younger I really valued my worth by whether or not I was in a relationship, and I do not think I am alone in this.

I’ve had my fair share of heartbreak over the years, cheating, being blindsided, not feeling good enough. I felt that to be in a relationship meant that I was good enough for someone, so I must be good enough, right? And like I said, that’s how I valued my worth.

I have somewhat followed Taylor Swift’s dating life and patterns and relate to her songs on SO MANY LEVELS. Especially “The Man” from Lover. I will definitely be covering this topic in more detail.

I also fell into the pattern of thinking that I must have a relationship, get married, have kids and live the white picket fence lifestyle that has been so coveted for so many years. Alas, that is changing and with that, modern dating is evolving.

About half way though last year I was on that path, I had been in a pretty steady relationship for about 4.5 years. The relationship was everything I thought I wanted, but my life was a constant rut. He started pushing the kids issue, I wanted to travel, and the long and the short of it is that I realised I wanted more than the path society sets out for us at birth, he wanted to hold me down and I bailed.

I will go into this in another more in depth post, but basically, I was properly single for the first time in a long time. The last year and a half I have been exploring myself, learning who I am on my own and growing as a woman who is independent, financially and emotionally. I’ve also been exploring the world of modern dating, and I hope to share some insights about that. I’ve learned so much, and I feel like I give pretty decent advice (even though I might not always take my own advice).

I have had a lot of experience in dating and relationships, and I’d like to share my thoughts and opinions on that.

I want people to realise that whatever path you choose, its fine as long as it is right for you. I want to help people navigate the world of dating and to understand that being alone and happy is better than being in a relationship and miserable. And also realise that the relationship with yourself is the most important relationship of all.